I have said it before: The suffering we experience, being married to a gay man, does not define us. It does not limit us. It does not reflect who we are, or our worth.
I have said, and I repeat: there is nothing that can happen to us that God can’t use for our greater good and for His greater glory.
It is not God’s will that we suffer these abusive relationships, but part of the manifestation of His love for us, and His power, is that he uses them — defies them! turns them inside out and upside down! — to open doors of beauty and goodness that surpass our greatest imaginings. Our lives, our world, become bigger, and more filled with beauty, than we could anticipate, even before our sorrows.